Shiloh, IL (Hi 88 Lo 65)
I came back from my sister's on Monday. I had a hard time coming into the apartment for the first time alone. It's the emptiness that's getting to me. There's so many women that have walked this path of losing a partner, so I'm trying to pull myself together and get things done.
I'm coming across things you'll need after a spouse's death. ALL passwords to the subscriptions online and anything else that's password protected. The computer itself may have a password. I knew that one so no problem. If the spouse is computer savvy, there's tons of subscriptions to cancel. This week was waiting on the death certificates so I could cancel and change info for insurance, military insurance and pay, dentals changes, There's so much to get done. I had one of the companies to call as early as possible before people start calling from different time zones. By 2:30 I had made 10 calls and everyone answered and paperwork is on the way for signing.
This is from a blog reader and very good info. Thank you Phyllis E. for the info
I would suggest to all .... copy of will to each child. (We have 5 between us and want all to have an understanding). A spread sheet of who to notify with numbers given to one of the children. Another spread sheet listing items that we want certain people to be given. Another list given to each child of where things are such as key to safes, list of passwords, all financial info such as number of Financial planner and what bills are paid online, etc.
I picked up the death certificates on Thursday. I had seven copies made which is what was suggested by several people. Since Covid is still in effect a lot of meetings are online and paperwork scanned and emailed. There is a few like Social Security that wants the original which will be sent back. I never trust the mailing system so hopefully it will work for a change and get it there and back.
I want to thank you for the prayers, cards and calls this week. It's so surreal it's only been a week but in some ways it seems like a year. I found out you have to have a marriage license along with the death certificate. I thought all was ok, but now I can't get into online banking and I can't get into the car insurance online website. I'll have to make more calls on Monday.
Friday was the North Carolina zoom meeting with everyone. One couple was missing but still got caught up on this weeks activities. The MS bike ride was last weekend in New Bern. I've worked the one years ago in Raleigh with amateur radio, so that was a good update. This should be a better week.
I'm putting in the time-line for Jim. I want it where I can always find it and also for others to know what we went thru for Glioblastoma.
GLIOBLASTOMA – 4
This is a week or month observation from a wife’s point of view
May 21, 2021 we started a trip from Florida to Illinois and took 3, when driving kept going right
Three day travel, speech was slurred, barely audible at times
May 23 we arrived in Illinois with the kids
In one day, the speech wasn’t good, almost not understandable
Hospital May 25, Barnes in St Louis
MRI showed tumor 2.3 cm
August 20, Nurse says maybe end of next week will be the last, started oxygen machine
August 31, impacted bowel. Used fleet for enema, eating a lot less
During the night gave ativan and morphine
Total damage: No right side feeling or use, no speech from the very beginning, lost eyesight, no walking or moving much.