(NC State Fairgrounds, Raleigh, NC) Hi 75 Lo 51 -- I'll start with yesterday and go through today.
Yesterday, we went to another assisted care facility. We liked it a lot, but there was a buzzer that went off almost the whole time we were there that drove us both nuts. I can't imagine having to listen to that the whole time you live there. It was alarms set off by people in their rooms, or a secure or emergency door that was opened. We visit mom every day, but every time we go we have a short time before we have to go somewhere to see another facility. We're eating on the run. We went to Fayetteville about and hour and half away last night to meet with mom's financial adviser. We stayed for a couple hours and developed a plan to consolidate mom's finances. Jim has a lot of phone calls to make and details to take care of.
That brings us to today. Jim was on the phone all morning getting financial paperwork sent to us. We should have it all in shape before we leave in three weeks. We left to go to mom's apartment to get some clothes for her. We got to her room for a visit, but again we had to leave about an hour later. We've decided to put in an application at Carillon Assisted Care in Fuquay-Varina. We went there to pay a deposit and got a whole pile of paperwork to fill out. Tomorrow I'll sit with mom and get her help with it. As of now we're thinking she'll be released from rehab and move into her new home next Friday. But that's very tentative right now.
This evening we had dinner with some friends to catch them up with our travels, and find out what they've been up to this summer. Now that we've settled on a home for mom we hope to have a little more free time and get our lives back to normal. We still have to work on the finances and clear out the apartment, but the sense of urgency has died down some. Mom isn't much better yet. We're hoping this rehab will do her good. She's having trouble getting up from the bed and chair, but once up she walks good with a walker. Her mental outlook seems to be changing rapidly. She's always been very independent and proud of her ability to handle her finances, and treasured her belongings. Now she appears ready to give all that up. She's leaving every decision to us and says she'll "do whatever we want her to." I guess we should be thankful for that, but I hope it isn't a sign that depression is setting in. We'll see...